I’m starting with an apology for not visiting all your amazing blogs! But school is killing me! There is a test almost every day and there are so many huge assignments and I can’t even find a time to catch my breath. But Monday [hopefully] will be the last crazy day and after that everything should settle down.
I do have one problem though, and I want your advice!
I have this friend…
She is smart, beautiful, fun, amazing girl and I love her to death. But she has one little problem. I can’t even call it little. She has no sign of confidence in her. She thinks she’s ugly, stupid, boring and she lets others bring her down. She gets really easily offended even for nothing.
The other problem is her boyfriend. He brings her down more than anyone else. He lives in other city and whenever they are talking on the phone, they fight. [for nothing]. He tells her he misses her and he’s mad that she doesn’t visit him so often, but when she visits him, he goes out clubbing and she stays at his apartment cause she’s not 21 so she can’t get into clubs. She always spends her money on him and most of the time she is sad.
Besides that, she says that she loves him and everything is fine.
But then she talks to me and cry because she doesn’t want to lose him.
Now the part where I need your help:
I love it that she trusts me and she knows I’m always there for her, but I don’t want to be just a good listener. I want to help her. But I don’t know how. I think her boyfriend is not the best match for her. I think she deserves someone much much better, who treats her the way she should be treated. But If I say that to her, she will simply disagree or listen and do nothing anyway.
I think if she got more confident, she would realize that she can get someone better and that she is not as bad as she thinks she is. But at this point I don’t know how to help her. I am hugging her every day and telling her how amazing she is but that is not helping…
So I need your help. WHAT SHOULD/CAN I DO?