I’m starting with an apology for not visiting all your amazing blogs! But school is killing me! There is a test almost every day and there are so many huge assignments and I can’t even find a time to catch my breath. But Monday [hopefully] will be the last crazy day and after that everything should settle down.
I do have one problem though, and I want your advice!
I have this friend…
She is smart, beautiful, fun, amazing girl and I love her to death. But she has one little problem. I can’t even call it little. She has no sign of confidence in her. She thinks she’s ugly, stupid, boring and she lets others bring her down. She gets really easily offended even for nothing.
The other problem is her boyfriend. He brings her down more than anyone else. He lives in other city and whenever they are talking on the phone, they fight. [for nothing]. He tells her he misses her and he’s mad that she doesn’t visit him so often, but when she visits him, he goes out clubbing and she stays at his apartment cause she’s not 21 so she can’t get into clubs. She always spends her money on him and most of the time she is sad.
Besides that, she says that she loves him and everything is fine.
But then she talks to me and cry because she doesn’t want to lose him.
Now the part where I need your help:
I love it that she trusts me and she knows I’m always there for her, but I don’t want to be just a good listener. I want to help her. But I don’t know how. I think her boyfriend is not the best match for her. I think she deserves someone much much better, who treats her the way she should be treated. But If I say that to her, she will simply disagree or listen and do nothing anyway.
I think if she got more confident, she would realize that she can get someone better and that she is not as bad as she thinks she is. But at this point I don’t know how to help her. I am hugging her every day and telling her how amazing she is but that is not helping…
So I need your help. WHAT SHOULD/CAN I DO?
-B-
you are right.first her confidence should be boosted.
ReplyDeletei think you can appreciate her for even the small things she does.just keep on telling how wonderful she is and believe me this will work wonders and more than that it will equally great if somebody else appreciates her,compliment her...you simply have to create opportunities baiba!
i will ask my friends and tell you more ideas okay.
and let me tell u this u are a wonderful freind:)
I WAS FINALLY ABLE TO OPEN YOUR BLOG!!
ReplyDeleteHARITHA is right--just keep building her self confidence. She may have trouble believing this, since she is a teenager, but she has to feel complete in herself. If she finds a boyfriend that can accept that--fine. If not, that's OK, too.
I'm thinking about you and praying for you as well as your friend.
ReplyDeleteP. S. I hope you'll continue blogging for a long, long time. I LOVE your blog!
You sound like you have already got this figured out. He knows she is insecure and is afraid to be alone but if she is as great as you say she won't be for long after she ditches this immature pillock. You are doing all you can, the decision has to come from her. Don't apologise for not having the time to look at other people's blogs. I'm in the same boat, work gets in the way but has to be done.
ReplyDeletethank you all for being so awesome! :) I sure hope this will solve out soon... :)
ReplyDeleteHey girly, Sorry it's been awhile. Just put my mom on the plane this morning and trying to play catch up with everyone. As for your friend, the others are all right.. You are wasting your breath if you try to talk her out of seeing that jackass. She won't listen and she will get angry with you. Try and encourage her about herself first. As a teenager she will fall in and out of love a million times before she finds the right one. Good luck kiddo.
ReplyDeleteYou're awesome. (:
ReplyDeleteMelynda I'm so happy for you :) you got to hand out with your mom and your sister have a beautiful baby :) congrats on that! and thanks :) i missed your advices!
ReplyDeletemy 2 pesos - thanks :)